On Dating an Older Guy

Well, slightly older. Because more than five years is unfitting for me.

I never really opened myself to the world of dating until college. My first real boyfriend just came unannounced and safe to say it was an unprecedented relationship. Although prior to the commitment, I've always thought that I wanted my first to be someone older by around two years. This I wasn't granted because my first boyfriend was exactly my age and at the time I thought it was okay. I was more immature than he was but it was great until I started growing up and wanting different things with him still doing the same things I did not approve of. Getting back together was part of the plan but some things are just never the same. I guess I surpassed him when I started working, completely changing the cuts of my puzzle pieces that he just wasn't the right missing piece anymore. I was becoming more of his mother than his partner and it was unseemly of me. I started to believe that girls do mature faster than boys and to back it up I even did a little research. It does say that the reason and rationality centers of a girl's brain mature several years sooner than a normal boy's. Touché. 

I'm 21 right now, currently in a relationship with a man two years older than me. I'm led to believe that age isn't just a number. As we grow old, we change our clothing, we change where (and the way) we hang out, we change almost our entire lifestyle. I took my solitary days as an opportune time to observe younger and older guys. During the couple of months that I was single, I did not want to get involved with any guy despite my parents and friends' attempts to get me on a date. Not that I wasn't ready, I just don't go on dates. I only dated one guy in my life. I'm like this girl who likes to dress up and is very well-composed at work but truth is I eat too much, I like playing xbox (and looking forward to having my GTA V soon), I sit very unladylike when I'm at home like my legs are spread on default, and when I just stay at home the whole day I don't even bother to shower. My boy(space)friends don't see me as a girl, it gets to that point when I get too comfortable with someone. But I guess it's inevitable (and nice) to be admired by a few people in spite of my ways. So I did entertain a few just to observe them (I am so sorry). I didn't want to be in a relationship again yet but this two-years-older-guy sort of got in the way.

I projected my past onto my future and felt somewhat relieved that I shouldn't have. Guys my age are practically (a) still in college (b) out of college but has no job (c) out of college and has a job but spends 70-100% of his salary splurging on beer at a nightclub and Nike SBs. They still think about college parties and hooking up with chicks at the bar like they're apprentices of Barney Stinson. At 23 years old, my boyfriend can still fall under letter C like other latebloomers but he doesn't. He doesn't drink much and he saves and invests a part of his income for "future use". He actually thinks about settling down, having kids and providing for his family, not anytime soon, but at least it's already in his plan. I'm not yet ready for these but it's great to have someone responsible and mature enough to plan ahead. Guys my age have low tolerance for female hormones. I guess this may apply to men of all ages, but usually an older man will understand that you're a younger woman going through a phase. The one your age is likely to become your best friend because you relate to each other, but there's that feeling that he's not old enough to make you feel secure. I'm an independent woman and my boyfriend regards me as "too feisty" but I have to admit that once in a while it's nice to be looked after.

There are also low points in dating an older guy but I don't really mind it that much. I guess I learned to love and think about what's good for me now, and even better for the future me.